tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-53013827886434838672024-02-20T03:42:48.240-06:00A Puertorican in Wauwatosa, WisconsinMemoirs, anecdotes and everyday musings of a Puertorican transplant to a small suburb in the Midwest...La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-16545340634771173292011-03-29T18:05:00.015-05:002011-04-03T00:00:10.243-05:00Thinking about voting for JoAnne Kloppenburg? Think again.There will be an election in Wisconsin a week from today. <br /><br />One of the races is for Supreme Court Justice. <br /><br />This is, allegedly, a non-partisan race. It should be, but obviously it isn't according to each contenders' campaign. <br /><br />The contenders: JoAnne Kloppenburg and Judge David Prosser. <br /><br />If you are thinking of voting for Kloppenburg only because you are mad at Governor Walker and the Republican legislators, and want to get "even" with them, think again. <br /><br />"Time to get even" is what all the people pissed at Walker are chanting right now. <br /><br />But there are a few things to consider here: <br /><br />The issue with Walker is only one issue. And who knows how that would end or how long it will last. <br /><br />On the other hand, voting for a Supreme Court Justice is to decide how the highest court in the State of Wisconsin will handle cases in the next two to ten years, as this is not a short appointment. Cases that will range between many issues, not only issues that have to do with Scott Walker and his "evil" bill. <br /><br />JoAnne Kloppenburg has demonstrated she is far from being "non-partisan". She is an activist whose husband made monetary contributions to Democratic senators, and both have been very vocal in their opinion of Governor Walker's bill. <br /><br />Her supporters have made it clear that a vote for her will be a step against Walker. Go and do your research. You will find it all over the Internet. <br /><br />Now, there are some things that the mainstream media do not talk much about. How Kloppenburg has never been a judge and applied to be one three times. Even Obama took a pass on her. <br /><br />Her main accomplishments: being a Government attorney, representing the DNR and the State, going after property and small business owners. <br /><br />Because of her vendetta-like actions, a restaurant owner in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin ended up filing for bankruptcy, because he could not afford the attorney fees to keep defending himself against Kloppenburg's harassment. 34 employees lost their jobs, all because the DNR and Kloppenburg would not leave him alone. <br /><br />An 80-year old land owner was thrown in jail two months after having open heart surgery, because he would not follow an order to plant certain weeds in his OWN PRIVATE PROPERTY to prevent soil run off. Now, I get the worry about protecting Mother Earth and the environment, blah, blah, blah. But, throwing a sick, elderly man in jail, and draining his savings account to pay a lien on the property while in jail? I mean, come on! That sounds to me more like what a communist regime, not an attorney - much less a judge! - in Wisconsin would do. <br /><br />So these are just a couple of examples. You can read more about it on the link below (please cut and paste to your browser, as my hyperlinks are acting up again!) or you can do your own research. <br /><br />http://bit.ly/esFI9i <br /><br />Our freedoms are at stake here. Actually, if you DISLIKE Walker, you then should think about this: is he really worth putting the citizens of Wisconsin in the hands of an incompetent and obviously misguided candidate to Supreme Court Judge? You have the power of preventing that from happening. She will not have your best interest in mind. What will she do when there is no Walker issue to pursue? <br /><br />Think about it. <br /><br />And don't forget to vote!<br /><br />ETA: Tonight, an Anonymous party attempted to post here information that may be - or not - pertinent to my readers. It will be for the readers to decide. However, this weasel started this way:"I bet you do not have enough guts to post this." I find this insulting and disrespectful, but even more so, hypocritical. How dare you accuse me of not having enough guts when you don't identify yourself? I have accepted comments in the past from anonymous sources; that is not the problem. If you want me to post the info, you show yourself, then I will see if I feel like posting it, since I have no obligation to post anything. But at least, the whole world can see who you are if I decide to. This is my house, my rules. COMPRENDE? In any case, the one that does not have cojones is you.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-86929095506946234422011-03-17T21:19:00.004-05:002011-03-17T21:39:50.123-05:00My children are awesome!Oh, the little joys of parenting.<br /><br />We had parent/teacher conferences tonight. <br /><br />We are blessed with two wonderful daughters. Each unique and doing great, above average for their grade and age.<br /><br />It fills my heart with pride, but also with a little sorrow for those children that do not have the sources, or the opportunities my children have.<br /><br />They have wonderful teachers, and are surrounded by lots of love.<br /><br />My children are awesome. The most wonderful gift that God has given me. And I am grateful for it. But I know they really don't belong to me. <br /><br />When I was only a teenager, I read Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet". One of its pages, titled "On Children", gave me the inspiration for what I wanted my relationship with my children to be one day. And I always remember...<br /><br />On Children<br /> Kahlil Gibran<br /><br />Your children are not your children.<br />They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.<br />They come through you but not from you,<br />And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.<br /><br />You may give them your love but not your thoughts, <br />For they have their own thoughts.<br />You may house their bodies but not their souls,<br />For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, <br />which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.<br />You may strive to be like them, <br />but seek not to make them like you.<br />For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.<br /><br />You are the bows from which your children<br />as living arrows are sent forth.<br />The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, <br />and He bends you with His might <br />that His arrows may go swift and far.<br />Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;<br />For even as He loves the arrow that flies, <br />so He loves also the bow that is stable.<br /><br /><br /><br />Love you, my children. Thank you for being you.<br /><br />Mami.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-77632694919608702042011-03-14T18:03:00.002-05:002011-03-14T18:37:37.133-05:00Wisconsin is not Egypt.No, Wisconsin is NOT Egypt.<br /><br />It irritates me greatly when people compare Wisconsin current events to the uprising and the fight of the Egyptian people.<br /><br />As someone who contributed a little grain of sand to help the people of Egypt through Twitter, and read, probably before it hit the media, what some of them went through, I fail to be able to make a comparison.<br /><br />Why? Well, I will tell you why.<br /><br />Today, I heard on radio the account of a young woman who witnessed an affront on some one's rights.<br /><br />Last weekend, Madison saw record numbers of protesters supporting "workers rights." Rights that, according to them, have been stripped from the hard-working people of Wisconsin. We had movie stars, Hollywood personalities, advocating for them because they "belong to an union." Advocating also for the so called "peaceful protesters."<br /><br />Among all of that crowd, there was no room for those who support the Government to be heard. In Egypt, the people protested, but the Government tried to silence them. In Wisconsin, while those against the Government protest, those in support are the ones attacked, threatened, beaten.<br /><br />A young woman and a friend dared to show up in Madison. They were driving, with a sign declaring their support for Scott Walker. While stuck in traffic, the driver was attacked by an anti-Walker protester. There were pictures emailed to the host of a local radio show host. I have no reason to doubt this happened. The attacker punched her car, reached in, pulled the sign, and grabbed her cell phone and took off when she attempted to call for help. Fortunately, another protester (one with a conscience who did not think it was right), chased the guy and convinced him to give back the stolen item. He boasted of doing "the right thing."<br /><br />Meanwhile, the girl tried to find a police officer. Before she did, she was surrounded by anywhere from ten to twenty protesters who yelled obscenities at her. While she cried, they would point cameras at her, saying, "oh, honey, this is going on YouTube, so say whatever you want!", taunted her, bullied her. She finally was able to get help. And none of this has hit the media. Just as the media ignores all the other affronts Governor Walker's supporters are receiving. And I firmly believe that there must have been other similar incidents that have not been reported because people is scared.<br /><br />You may be thinking, "so what? Just one incident." Or "she is so stupid for going to Madison with a Walker sign." And that is where I say, "<strong>WAIT A MINUTE</strong>!" Last time I checked, this is a democracy, and we ALL have the right to demonstrate. Madison is not owned by the protesters. It is the house of ALL of Wisconsin residents. So, if a group organized and decided to demonstrate in support of Governor Walker, is it OK for the anti-Walker protesters to treat them like Mubarak's thugs treated protesters in Egypt? I don't think so.<br /><br />In Egypt, the people protested against the status quo, against a situation that was holding them back and prevailed for decades. They finally said it was enough. And I would not DARE to compare myself to an Egyptian living in the conditions many of them have lived. To me, it would be arrogant on my part, and an insult to the people of Egypt to do such a thing. I know many of them have said they support Wisconsin workers. And that is OK. That is what freedom is about. But I am certain most of them would not support the tactics being used here. <br /><br />So stop comparing. Those who complained before of political rhetoric causing damage and inciting acts of violence are the ones on the other side of the coin. And they are doing a fine job of showing their true colors.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-85441291484699873882011-02-26T15:36:00.004-06:002011-02-26T16:56:09.584-06:00CrossroadsIn literature, movies, popular culture, crossroads seem to be frequently used as a symbol for a time of introspection and decision-making, a time of crisis, perhaps?<br /><br />The politically-charged environment of my State has brought me to a sort of crossroads in my ideologies and visions.<br /><br />I find myself still advocating for many things liberals also advocate for: basic human rights. <br /><br />The right to choose for my body what I want, and to respect other women in the decisions they make when it comes to contraception and pregnancy. And their right to have access to adequate, safer ways to carry out those decisions.<br /><br />The rights of women not to be degraded by some people deciding that now "rape" will have a new meaning.<br /><br />The rights of women to have same working conditions - and pay - as men. <br /><br />The rights of human beings to love and being in a committed relationship with another human being regardless of their race, religion... or gender. And their right, when illness or the end of their life comes, to not to be harassed by bureaucrats who would not allow them to be with one another because they are not "legally" married. And their right to be married!<br /><br />The right of soldiers not to be told they cannot serve their country because they are gay. And their rights to be able to say so openly.<br /><br />The right of people and children not to be victims of human trafficking and abuse.<br /><br />The right to fight to save the environment.<br /><br />The right to worship - or not - in any way I see fit. And the right to say what I want. And in both instances, to not be afraid of repercussion, of bodily harm, incarceration or death.<br /><br />Yes. All of that. And much, much more.<br /><br />But then, I find myself advocating for a cause a lot of people who consider themselves liberals are against: Governor Walker's Budget Repair Bill.<br /><br />That 'evil' bill. Well, no. It is not evil.<br /><br />This last couple of weeks, I have read and heard of some protesters in Madison who claim they are defending their rights, but then they trample on the rights of others. I see the unions advocating for their rights, but they still think they can force union members to join their ranks and pay their dues. <br /><br />I see people from all walks of life talking ugly about "the other side". I see 14 senators running away from their duty instead of doing their job. And I voted for them.<br /><br />A handful of Walker supporters went to Madison last week, and a friend of mine was there. This person was subjected to foul language and offensive words. Her right to also protest undermined by those not agreeing with her. Is that freedom?<br /><br />And I wonder, why is it so hard to understand that this guy is trying to do something to save this great State of Wisconsin from bankruptcy? Plain and simple.<br /><br />Yes, you can laugh. If you are against this bill, you don't have to agree with me. I would not laugh at you. My previous blog posts give you my answers and stance to some of the issues presented and the fallacies, the myths floating around. I hope everyone would not make their decisions based on "my ______ (relative, friend) belongs (or belonged) to an union" or "so and so are State workers", on emotions. Believe me, I even know teachers, teacher's relatives and public sector workers who understand what this is about. <br /><br />It is my hope that anyone on each side of the issue can sit down and analyze all the data, then make their decisions based on drawing their own conclusions. If after that, they still do not support it, fine. At least they are firm in their conviction. A conviction that is the fruit of careful thought and consideration.<br /><br />And being that I am at crossroads reminds me of a time, while growing up, when I witnessed the adults of the era voting across political party lines and it was OK. They did not need to align themselves with a particular party, but with the guy doing the job right at that particular moment in history. And I guess that is the way I will go.<br /><br />Don't tell me I can't do that. I already did.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-43307686185774418872011-02-20T19:11:00.004-06:002011-02-20T21:09:30.454-06:00Collective Bargaining Fairy Tales. Part I<em>"Only 5 states do not have collective bargaining for educators and have deemed it illegal. Those states and their ranking on ACT/SAT scores are as follows: South Carolina: 50th, North Carolina: 49th Georgia, 48th Texas: 47th, and Virginia: 44th. Wisconsin is ranked #2 in the nation."</em><br /><br />This has been floating around on Twitter for a couple of days. The post is intended to establish a correlation between collective bargaining and students scores. Right?<br /><br />Well, not so fast.<br /><br />For starters, the information allegedly comes from this site: <br /><br />http://www.publicagenda.org/charts/state-state-sat-and-act-scores. <br /><br />I further researched the matter. The data in the site is from 2006. Five years old.<br /><br />In further research, I found documented data in a press release from the Wisconsin Department of Public Instruction on more recent results from 2010(Sorry, you will need to copy and paste the links to your browser, as my link function here seems to be broken): <br /><br />http://dpi.state.wi.us/eis/pdf/dpinr2010_116.pdf<br /><br />Interestingly enough, only 4% of the students participated on SAT and 69% participated on the ACT. Not a whooping, slam-dunk indicator of results, is it? By the little analysis written on another blog that seems pretty respectable, "Student Activism" by Angus Johnston, I found the following:<br /><br /><em>"Wisconsin ranks 3rd in the nation in SAT scores, but with a participation rate of just 4%. On the ACT, with a much more representative participation rate of 69%, it was tied for 17th. In comparison…<br /><br />•Virginia was 34th on the SAT with 67% participation, 13th on the ACT with 22% participation.<br />•Texas was 45th on the SAT with 53% participation, 33rd on the ACT with 33% participation.<br />•Georgia was 48th on the SAT with 74% participation, 34th on the ACT with 44% participation.<br />•North Carolina was 38th on the SAT with 63% participation, 20th on the ACT with 16% participation.<br />•South Carolina was 49th on the SAT with 66% participation, 44th on the ACT with 52% participation.<br /><br />Wisconsin is clearly above the other five states in both SAT and ACT scores, but the gap isn’t anywhere near as big as the pro-union tweets suggest. Among high ACT participation states, Wisconsin ranks something like 4th in the nation. But among high SAT participation states, Virginia ranks about 5th in the nation — almost all the states with better SAT scores than Virginia have far smaller participation rates, drawing on a far more elite test-taking group"</em><br /><br />It has a lot more information, and it would be redundant to copy and paste all of it here. It can be found on: <br /><br />http://studentactivism.net/2011/02/20/sat-act-unions/#comment-14522<br /><br />I also found another blog that cites factual, documented information regarding collective bargaining and the impact on test scores:<br /><br />http://northparkstreet.com/2011/02/twitter-collective-bargaining-for-teachers-and-act-scores/<br /><br />Regardless of statistics, tables and studies, my personal opinion is this: SAT, ACT, and whatever other scores are there to measure learning don't depend only on the ability of their teachers to bargain, but partly on the dedication they show to teach the children. Additionally, there are so many, many factors that influence how children achieve in school. It certainly is disturbing that people are unknowingly "retweeting" information to back up their claims without checking its accuracy, as clearly has been stated by the sources I used. I went to each and every site the bloggers used as sources. The evidence is there. <br /><br />So, go ahead, browse the sites and decide for yourself. Instead of falling over-backwards or letting my jaw drop, I went and did my homework, and decided to share it with you.<br /><br />Happy reading!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-31060889180605245042011-02-17T18:04:00.014-06:002011-02-18T00:01:35.948-06:00Wisconsin Woes: This "Bill" is driving us crazy!Wisconsin has been my home for more than 20 years. My plan was to go back home -Puerto Rico - after five years. But then, I got married. So here I am. I love Wisconsin, and as an adoptive daughter of this State, it saddens me what is going on in here today. But I have an opinion about it. Maybe not the most popular right now, but here I go.<br /><br />Those who know me know that I tend to lean more to the "left" side of politics while trying to stay in the "middle-of-the-road": I am pro-choice and pro-women's rights. I am all for gay marriage and rights of same sex couples and so-called "non-traditional" families. I think RAPE is rape, no matter that some individuals would like to redefine it. I think the war sucks, but I still admire and respect profoundly our men and women in uniform; I know this is sort of cliche-y but I will say it because I feel it: because of our soldier's sacrifices, I enjoy the freedoms I do. I think government should stay out of what I eat, but also should stay out of how I control the number of offspring I will give birth to. And I do believe in the right to bear arms. <br /><br />That is just who I am. I believe I have the right to speak my first language - Spanish - without anyone yelling at me to "speak English!" But I also believe that anyone who comes here with big dreams should learn English if they want to make it, just like I did. I believe that only American citizens should be allowed to enjoy Federal assistance, but I also know this country is made up of inmigrants, and all inmigrants should be given a fair chance to become citizens if they so desire, not treated like criminals or an infected animal.<br /><br />And, I do believe in the work and goals of unions in America, in the right to protest, to collectively bargain for better benefits. Yes, I do. And, opposite to what many believe, this demonized bill is not what everyone is making it to be. As a matter of fact, I wonder if everyone who is protesting it has even read it. For highlights, you can follow this link:<br /><br /><a href="http://host.madison.com/wsj/news/local/govt-and-politics/article_3d93e6aa-363a-11e0-8493-001cc4c002e0.html">null</a><br /><br />Now, let's make this clear: I sympathize with those who truly are hard workers and will have to take a hit to their finances. With that said, I will tell you this: Working for the private sector, I know that many of the benefits State workers enjoy have been much better than mine until recent times. <br /><br />I also know that many teachers do work hard and go above and beyond what is required of them, even when the Union tries to dictate the amount of hours they can work. Then, again, you have those who only work the bare minimum, and even dare to resent the ones who give more because it makes them look bad.<br /><br />But this is the deal: yesterday, the Madison school district had to close because of all the teachers calling in sick. Translation: taking time off to go to Madison and protest. Their right? Sure! But I am glad I was not the parent that had to call her employer to say, "I will not be in today or I will be late because my kids don't have school and I have to make alternate arrangements for them." The teachers from Menomonee Falls, Wisconsin, went and protested loud and hard AFTER school. Good for them! They should protest if that is what they want. But many teachers are against the "Bill" because "it is in the best interest of the children". Really? In the best interest of the children to go protest instead of being in the classroom teaching them? Yes, I've heard it all: they can miss school on a snow day, so this will not hurt them. Reality check: A snow day is not something anyone can control, and on a snow day, I still would rather have my kid learning something. I also heard that, by watching their teachers take a stand in what they believe, they learn good lessons. NOT! Again, other teachers did not call in "sick" to go protest. Yeah, that is great work ethic. Pfft. Some teachers took students to the protest as a "field trip". Whaaaat?!? <br /><br />My tax dollars already pay for WAY more things than I care about, and I don't have much of a say on it. One thing they pay: education for my children. And I want it to be EXCELLENT. The Unions, while a great thing, as everything in life, have a dark side: they negotiate, advocate and bargain for the not-so-excellent teachers (or workers in general) as well. What is the "Bill" trying to do? Per the link I posted, it "makes various changes to limit collective bargaining for most public employees to wages." It is not taking the bargaining away, just redefining the rules, among other things. <br /><br />I think enough is enough. This is not about throwing a tantrum because "it is not fair". It is about making things equal for all. Simple: if you are working hard, you earn. If you are not, you don't. Even with the modifications, the State workers - teachers included - will still have a benefits package that is better than most benefit packages in the private sector. And no one is taking away anyone's right to protest and bargain. And, why not? If possible, I too would like the lawmakers to take a bit more time to review this. But I will not be the one chanting "Kill the Bill".<br /><br />Like my mother always says, let's not forget: your rights end where mine begin. <br /><br />PS: Please let's have our facts together before spreading rumors. Although I did not vote for Governor Walker, he still is the Governor, and just was elected by some of the same people who wants him recalled now. What about giving him a chance? In my case, well, I am stuck with him for a couple more years, so may as well make the best of it. Many of the rumors circulating are not even true. He did not give away incentives to the rich or deployed the National Guard on protestors. No dictatorship here...although the revolution fever seems to be spreading here as well. That is a good thing. So let's hope that only the best comes out of it.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-16086300517362860092011-01-30T10:15:00.006-06:002011-01-30T10:19:07.832-06:00Write-in candidate for the School Board and the World Language Initiative in the Wauwatosa School District.I just found that a group of parents in our school district are trying to get a write-in candidate in the upcoming School Board Elections (the deadline to submit candidates has passed), to have the new School Board Member, if elected, help overturn the recently approved World Language Initiative (see the link below for more information).<br /><br />(You will need to copy and paste the links to your browser)<br /><br />http://www.wauwatosa.k12.wi.us/worldlanguageiniative.cfm<br /><br />This "write-in" candidate may be a wonderful, well-intentioned person. However, I have some concerns:<br /><br />1) What happens if this person goes in and still the decision is not overturned? If the sole motivator for this individual to run for one of the seats coming up for election is to overturn this decision, would the motivation diminish and loose steam if his/her plans and the plans of this group of parents does not come to fruition?<br /><br />2) How capable is this person going to be to represent the District on ALL issues that will come before him/her? Again, to run for such position with one purpose in mind...then, if in the future this School Board member does not vote favorably (according to the citizens) on some other "hot topic", will there be another "witch hunt" to unseat this person?<br /><br />3) Is this person going to be able to deal with all the issues objectively, of her own accord, or is he/she going to be "manipulated" by some behind-the-scenes "grassroots" group?<br /><br />The Group trying to do this has a Facebook page, "Save Tosa School Libraries"; it is now an open group (see the link below).<br /><br />http://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=group_192629354085396<br /><br />Just something to think about... This is something ALL citizens in our District able to vote should consider.<br /><br />If anyone has any ideas or suggestions, please feel free to comment.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-63143085687995040812010-11-27T12:07:00.002-06:002010-11-27T12:13:14.493-06:00Body Image – Puertorican Style(This is a revised version of my post by the same name from June 16, 2008)<br /><br />I moved to Wisconsin in 1989. I was young and skinny. Now, I am a little less young and a lot less skinny.<br /><br />I remember, growing up, how women in my family were all concerned with weight. How I would hear, "Oh, be careful; with your genes, you are prone to become fat!", and all kind of comments of the like. I was little, but before long, when I started to approach puberty, and the hormones dictated that now fat was to be stored in certain parts of my body, the comments were then directed at me.<br /> <br />Welcome to womanhood! My body was to rearrange itself time and again.<br /> <br />I am surprised that no more women I knew from that generation did not develop some kind of eating disorder. In high school, I remember my friends and me trying all sorts of crazy diets, pills, and the like. They did not work, however. Most of my classmates had the same issue. They were all looking for what would be the “perfect body”. I wanted a larger butt and a smaller waist. Another wanted a smaller butt. One considered herself toothpick-like skinny, hence unattractive, while the other thought she could use losing weight. We were probably on the verge of an eating or personality disorder, as most of us saw a larger or distorted figure when we looked in the mirror.<br /> <br />My mother was always slightly self-conscious about her figure. She did not have, according to her, the figure most Puertoricans would consider "perfect". And, by God, she had to transfer her insecurities to me. She did not want me to gain weight, as my body would not look "good enough" because of my body shape. My shape, apparently, did not conform what somebody thought was the ideal figure either. The ideal Puertorican figure. But this was not unique to my mother. Most women there have the same issue. Not only are they ruthless while judging their own bodies, but they are relentless in finding imperfections in the bodies of everyone else. It gets tiring, believe me!<br /><br />It took many years to realize that my body is beautiful in its unique way. No, I did not have the ample buttocks or hips Puertorican people find most attractive. The word “chumba” (which means “flat rear”) was used often when referring to my rear end. I do have, however, according to them, pretty legs, the kind THEY like!<br /><br />It wasn't until I moved here that my self-esteem regarding my body improved considerably. It had already improved as I slowly was letting go of all those “hang ups”, but the next kick came here. I got to this part of the world and I discovered that the “ideal” of feminine beauty and the expectations were very different from where I come from. Also, I learned that I moved to a place ranked high when it comes to the number of obese people. Health wise, that is alarming. However, this fact put things into perspective for me. A former employer and his wife both insisted I was very skinny. They were a little older. But one day, his previous administrative assistant came in to pick up some papers, and when she left, I said to him, "Now I understand why you people bug me so much about being so skinny..." Frankly, I meant no disrespect for the woman. Simply, it was what crossed my head, how everything is a matter of perception. I was NEVER called skinny in Puerto Rico...well, probably the last time, I was in 7th grade, and I already felt a little chubby because of my mother's obsession with weight. So my neighbors laughed when they saw me with a full leotard because I was going to exercise to lose weight...they laughed so hard! But after hitting puberty, no one ever listed "skinny" in their list of adjectives about me...until landing in Wisconsin.<br /><br />Now, over 21 years later, I am, we could say, satisfied with my body. Could I be in better shape? Perhaps. Could use losing a few post-pregnancy pounds...post-pregnancy over 5 years later? Come on!<br /><br />But yes, I could use losing them and also exercise more, more for health reasons than appearance. I have been exercising more recently. Still, not as often and hard as I feel I should. Again, it is all because of health these days.<br /><br />With the holidays coming, it is good to remember moderation. Obesity is at plague levels in this country. Specially among children. So helping our fellow human beings in having healthier eating habits and more active lives is a gift in itself.<br /><br />Healthy body and mind does not mean that you need to have a certain shape or type of body. Beauty, as we all know, is in the eye of the beholder. So I guess it is up to us to believe that we are all beautiful in our own individual way. No need to conform to others’ idea of beauty and perfection. This, in itself, radiates from within; confidence makes everyone more beautiful!<br /><br />Happy holidays!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-20211476796817523492010-11-13T08:36:00.000-06:002010-11-13T08:36:38.174-06:00http://harrypotter.warnerbros.com/harrypotterandthedeathlyhallows/<a href="http://harrypotter.warnerbros.com/harrypotterandthedeathlyhallows/">http://harrypotter.warnerbros.com/harrypotterandthedeathlyhallows/</a>La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-87067844150924297862010-08-11T17:40:00.001-05:002010-08-11T17:41:56.975-05:00This is the town I call home today!Watch this video, and then come and visit some day!!<br /><br /><object style="background-image:url(http://i1.ytimg.com/vi/dw3tBItFJQY/hqdefault.jpg)" width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/dw3tBItFJQY&hl=en_US&fs=1"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/dw3tBItFJQY&hl=en_US&fs=1" width="425" height="344" allowScriptAccess="never" allowFullScreen="true" wmode="transparent" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"></embed></object>La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-68842519403805443312010-08-06T16:51:00.004-05:002010-08-06T17:43:02.025-05:00Religion, religion, religion...<em>"We have just enough religion to make us hate <br />but not enough to make us love one another." <br />Jonathan Swift</em><br /><br />The first time I heard this phrase was about 18 years ago. It was when I first watched the movie "Angel Heart." In it, Robert DeNiro played a character named "Louis Cypher" (get it?), and he tells this phrase to the main character, played by a younger, better looking Mickey Rourke.<br /><br />I grew up surrounded by religion. All kinds of it. I attended a Catholic school my whole life. Many of my relatives were very devout. Our neighbors were Pentecostals and held revivals in their living room and the front yard. And of course, all of those people who practiced the Yoruba religion sincretized in Catholicism...what we call "Santeria" in our little corner of the world.<br /><br />So, hearing that phrase was sort of a knock on the side of the head. Never had I thought of that. I know some people would say, "That was Satan using a movie to shake your beliefs." Well, duh! The guy playing Satan was who said it! But, no, my beliefs were not shaken. If anything, they were deepened. Why? Because it made me realize that, yes, this phrase is right. Still, I don't think it is the religion that causes the hate, but the people who use the religion AS AN EXCUSE to hate, even when they don't realize it.<br /><br />Now, I am no theologian or scholar. Yes, I did have religion class every day of every school year for 12+ years. Yes, I did attend Biblical studies and college level theology courses. Yes, I have read the Bible from beginning to end, have studied passages and what is believed to be the translation to the oldest Bible scripts in existence. I have studied different religions, within and outside Christianity, and have compared beliefs, dogmas, superstitions. But I am no expert. If anything, I could probably win some trivia games on religion.<br /><br />But, even though I am no expert, I know enough to know this: just as extremists flew into the World Trade Center almost 9 years ago in the name of their religion, so Christianity has its fair share of extremists: people who think they are holier, and everyone else who does not share their beliefs will burn in hell. We have seen it all through history. Crusades. Inquisition. Witch Hunts. KKK...should I go on? Each and every group, using God, the Bible, their beliefs, to terrorize, to mutilate, to kill, to control and rise to power.<br /><br />These are the ones who create the hate, not Christianity itself. Not Islam, Not Judaism. Not Buddhism. Not any other religion. It is the people who manipulate and twist their credos to favor their own agendas.<br /><br />Earlier today, a friend of mine posted on Facebook an open letter allegedly written to Dr. Laura (yes, the one with the show), in response to a comment she made about how it says in the Bible that homosexuality is an abomination. This probably came up in response of Prop 8 being overruled as unconstitutional. The open letter was awesome! It has not been determined that it was truly written by a professor from the University of Virginia. But really, the list in the letter is what is truly precious. <br /><br />You can find the letter here: http://www.nakedcapitalism.com/2010/03/an-open-letter-to-dr-laura-schlesinger.html<br /><br />So, if we all wanted to, we could really do atrocious, barbaric acts and back them up with Scripture. Couldn't we? And some people still do!<br /><br />So, let's stop the hate. But more importantly, let's stop using religion as an excuse to hate. I think the mainstay, most powerful and yet, simplest teaching of Jesus is "love one another"...it does not give conditions. Only love.<br /><br />Love, me.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-16700718737514301482010-08-04T22:52:00.003-05:002010-08-04T23:11:29.329-05:00I should not have to "Press 1 for English"...but...So, lately, I see all over Facebook how my friends "like" a page called, "I should not have to press 1 for English" (or something like that...).<br /><br />And, even though I am all for those coming here from other countries to learn English, I still find this expression a bit offensive. And I have more than one reason for it.<br /><br />First reason: English is not my first language. Just for that reason, I have to sympathize with those who are not fluent and need the additional language assistance.<br /><br />Second reason: Lack of compassion and empathy. No, I don't think that a younger person should come here expecting everyone to cater to him/her in their own language forever and ever. I think language assistance in the beginning, while adjusting to new surroundings, culture and a different language should be provided but only temporarily. It is the responsibility of those who come here seeking a better life to learn the language and the culture (while allowing me to continue to speak my language...but that is a different post).<br /><br />However, how about those who come here having an obstacle to their learning? We all know that children learn languages faster and better. The older we get, the harder it is. So what about the elderly parents that are brought to this country because they no longer can live by themselves, so their US resident relatives bring them here? Perhaps they can try to learn. But after a certain age, that gets harder and harder.<br /><br />Or what about the disabled (mentally or physically, or both) relative brought here for medical treatment, or because of the same reasons mentioned before? Or the teenager with a learning disability who will need longer time to learn than the average newly arrived person?<br /><br />This is where the whole attitude changes for me. No, I should not have to press 1, or 2, or 100, for English. I know the language, right? But, as irritating as it may seem, I have to stop and think about those who don't...and about me when I was in that position, 20-some years ago, not feeling completely fluent and wishing to find someone who knew my language. Yes, I did learn. I got over it. But a little assistance during transition is not a bad thing. <br /><br />So think about that the next time you have to press 1 for English. And maybe, do something to reduce the amount of people who need that feature. Offer to tutor someone in an English as a Second Language class. Teach such a class in a community center for free. Instead of complaining, give a solution, and stop bitching about having to press 1 for English! Your fingers will not fall off from it!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-81209402721661932352010-07-24T01:40:00.005-05:002010-07-24T02:07:53.764-05:00So death strikes again...A long time ago, right after I created this blog, I posted a few entries that were the product of a sense of grief and loss. I had lost a friend back then, so I pondered upon death, and life after.<br /><br />Now, once again, I try to make sense of that mystery.<br /><br />Almost a month ago, another friend left this world, suddenly, unexpectedly.<br /><br />He was one of those friends that was close and dear to me for a while, then we lost touch for a few years. And, thanks to the magic of technology (namely, Facebook), we were able to reconnect. I was happy to have found him. We were very close to be related at some point, had I married when I was 22 years old...but that's another story. Point is, we were almost family then, and it still felt as if we were.<br /><br />I was looking forward to the day I could go back home and have a reunion with him and other members of his family. Then, they lost their parents, almost one after another. I grieved with him and his sister through Facebook. We exchanged thoughts and condolences. His parents were dear people as well. I was very saddened by their departure.<br /><br />Then, about a month ago, on a Monday morning, during my routine, daily Facebook check in the morning, I read the post of a mutual friend, and almost passed out. My eyes welled up, and I could not believe what I was reading. My friend had been found dead in his apartment. Sudden. Apparently a heart attack or something like that.<br /><br />That made me once again ponder on all the cliches: today we are here, tomorrow is not guaranteed. Value what you have now. All those things that are repeated so much, but that are so real and true.<br /><br />His sister, who also is my friend, has had a tough year with the loss of her parents, a dear close friend, and now her brother, to whom she was very close. I don't dare to imagine how she must be feeling; I would be arrogant if I said that I know how she feels. I don't know how it is to lose a brother. And even if I did, grief is unique to each individual.<br /><br />And once again, I ponder when would I see my friend again. As I said in one of those earlier posts, I cannot believe that this is it. I cannot believe that life ends with our bodies decaying and rottening under the earth. This wonderful "invention" that is a human being, with this energy inside, cannot end here...so, I guess I will see you again, my friend. In the meantime, rest well.<br /><br />(In loving memory of Hugo Lopez de Jesus).La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-3067135969450563452010-07-17T10:51:00.000-05:002010-07-17T10:51:22.618-05:00http://www.starz.com/features/pillars/widget<a href="http://www.starz.com/features/pillars/widget">http://www.starz.com/features/pillars/widget</a>La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-82809587583762278752010-06-27T17:03:00.002-05:002010-06-27T17:05:44.998-05:00How did I become a belly dancer?Me? A belly dancer? Well, I am proud and honored to be called such (even when I am not a professional dancer-this is only a hobby), although that was not always the case... <br /><br />I still remember the first time I enrolled in a Middle Eastern Dance class. I did not tell anyone. Such is the stigma associated with it, I was afraid to admit I had finally given into one of my life's dream: to become a belly dancer. Being Hispanic, dance is a big part of our culture. I guess we learn how to dance at the same time we learn how to walk. My exposure to the "mysterious" art of belly dancing came in the form of movies, magazines and books. And it had always fascinated me. I tried to copy moves I had seen. But I knew that was still not enough. <br /><br />Finally, in 2002, I enrolled in a summer class, and I fell in love with it. Still, I was afraid to admit it. The negative connotations associated with this dance form are so untrue, but I was apprehensive about it. That only lasted a little bit... somewhere I read that fear is fueled by ignorance. So, the more I learned about the dance, the less afraid I was. Now, I proudly announce to any one who cares to hear about my hobbies that I am an amateur belly dancer! Since my first class, I have been enrolled on and off. I performed at a student recital once. I have attended day long seminars by dancers recognized internationally (the last one in April by Cassandra of Minnesota-awesome!). It is not an inexpensive hobby, and since I had my last child in 2005, I have taken a break. But have always kept on the loop of things with our local belly dance community, which is an awesome community of women, a sisterhood of sorts. <br /><br />I will be going back to lessons soon. I still have not forgotten my basic moves, but I need polishing and practice. For anyone interested, there are plenty of sources on the net. One of the most complete websites I know for anyone interested in learning about Middle Eastern Dance is www.shira.net/ I also am willing to answer any questions, just send me a message! <br /><br />Keep (or start) shimmying!!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-46915913170024828962010-04-11T09:26:00.001-05:002010-04-11T09:26:43.475-05:00How did I become a belly dancer?<a href=http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=SANDRAH13>How did I become a belly dancer?</a><br /><br />Posted using <a href="http://sharethis.com">ShareThis</a>La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-10594986489402428902009-08-08T07:11:00.003-05:002009-08-08T07:33:12.124-05:00Facebook Woes...So, I have not been here in a while...<br /><br />I know, I know. I announce a return, a comeback, and then I go away again. Life is busy, you know?<br /><br />I have children, a full time job, and go to school, so, I thought keeping up with this blog was going to be easier. But it is not.<br /><br />But, here I am, with a few thoughts. And, if people would like to respond, good or bad, go right ahead.<br /><br />I am on Facebook. If you have read my prior posts, you know that.<br /><br />I have been on there for almost two years now. I have a lot of friends in there. After a while, I go through a clean up process. I simply review my list of friends, and decide who should stay, and who should go. Eventually, I would like to reduce my list to family and close friends who are close to me even if they live far away. Not everyone that is there. <br /><br />It was fun at first to have everybody that I possibly could. Now, not so much.<br /><br />So, I "unfriended" (not my word!) someone the other day. This is a person who I am not related to, and who I don't consider a close friend. She just went in that "clean up" phase. Honestly, I had been wanting to remove this person for a while. Due to certain circumstances, this is not a person I want knowing the details of my life on Facebook. <br /><br />The surprise here is how this person reacted...within two hours I had an email asking why was she removed.<br /><br />Are you kidding? I don't even know who removes me!! Quite frankly, I don't care! I don't have time to check each time my number of friends go down!<br /><br />Apparently this person DOES have the time to do that. I was sort of creeped out. I have a sort of "business" relationship with this person, which is about to end next week. So I still need to communicate with her. She has been behaving very "unbecoming" about this whole deal.<br /><br />Really? About Facebook? I could understand if this person was someone I considered one of my best friends...but...<br /><br />Really?La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-52076990694309305642009-04-24T20:17:00.002-05:002009-04-24T20:39:47.104-05:00There is still hope...We can finally say that spring has really arrived in Wisconsin.<br /><br />And with this glorious day, the opportunity to see that there is still hope for humanity, after all.<br /><br />Let me explain: I went shopping with my youngest daughter. When we got out of the store, the temperature was maybe 10 degrees warmer than when we went in. As I struggle to unload my cart, and pick up my child and strap her in her safety seat, a lady walks by with what seemed to be her teenage daughter. They went to their car and unloaded their shopping cart. As the teenager passes by us to return her cart, she very politely said to me, "Ma'm, would you like me to take your cart also?". I was shocked! A polite teenager in this day and age!! I answered, "sure! If you would not mind, I would really appreciate that!" with the biggest smile I could give. I thank her again as she walked on her way back, and waved goodbye to them as they drove away.<br /><br />Now, if there are any adolescents reading this, please do not be offended. I was a teenager once too...how long ago? A while! But I have not forgotten how it felt to be misunderstood, how it was to hear our elders say, "youth today is bad, a bunch of irresponsible losers!" How the worse was always expected from us. <br /><br />Looking back, I cannot say I blame them. They probably were, like I am today, alarmed and disappointed at news of young people doing terrible things. And I am not talking about the "usual suspects" like teen pregnancy, or drugs...I am talking about the lack of empathy and compassion in the young people that you hear about in the news. When I hear a report on an old man beaten by a group of youngsters because "they were bored," it saddens me horribly. Where are the parents of these children? Is there someone out there taking responsibility for this behavior? My guess is, the parents are probably young themselves, and the cycle is simply repeating itself.<br /><br />So, to the young lady at the parking lot today, I bow to you. To her mother, I say "kudos" and "thank you" for taking the time to pass on to your children good values and the capacity to care for others. One simple, seemingly insignificant act, says volumes...and tells us that not everything is lost, after all.La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-60079079592750196602009-04-23T22:30:00.004-05:002009-04-23T22:36:37.070-05:00I am back.So, yes, I have been gone for a long time...5 months since my last post.<br /><br />Busy, busy. Between going back to school, then holidays, then the start of another semester, endless changes in my work and personal life, barely no time for anything.<br /><br />But, everything is well! No complains! The new year brings new resolutions that don't last, but some linger in the back of our heads and work their way through so we can still work it all out. So now I exercise more than I did in January. I am trying to eat better, and have become better at keeping the house organized. Not an expert, just better.<br /><br />My children continue to grow and amaze me. Everyday is a new discovery, a new adventure...<br /><br />I am back, and I hope I stay...I have much to talk about, to catch up...I missed you all, and I hope you missed me too! And if you did not...well, I am back anyway!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-59851600730999627602008-11-13T17:42:00.003-06:002008-11-13T18:04:13.458-06:00Yes, we can!So, I don't want to make this a political blog. Election day is over. History was made.<br /><br />So just this once, I will recall the experiences of the last few days since we elected a new president.<br /><br />In my native Puerto Rico, there is a new governor as well. And most people down there are quite happy with the result. They say, they wanted "cambio," change. A young, charismatic, vibrant governor with a big following. I guess he won by ample margin too.<br /><br />My mother voted for him...remember? She did not want to vote...<br /><br />Just like here, people wanted change.<br /><br />We have a new president elect. Vibrant, charismatic. Many think he won just because his ethnicity. And, yes, that is important. Many of those with African descent thought this day would never come. And for those of us who are considered "people of color," it is important too.<br /><br />But mostly, is about how people is thirsty for a new way to do things. Our president-elect may be just another politician. He will certainly make mistakes, as only humans do. However, this is the hope that something can be done. If a milestone as huge as this can be reached, then everything is possible.<br /><br />And, even when this may be controversial, I will write it; this is my blog, right? I have a message for all the white supremacists outthere. Those who believe they are better and smarter just because they are white. You know what? You are not. You are just painfully and disappointingly ignorant. And I hope one day you understand that there is no such thing as a pure-bred white, or any race, in this country anymore. Even if there was, that does not make one better than the other. So stop your threats and your complains. You know who you are. I hope one day you see the light.<br /><br />Ok, off my soap box now! No more politics...for a while!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-11338108323438845002008-11-03T18:58:00.002-06:002008-11-03T19:01:42.680-06:00What, you are NOT voting?!?!I never voted until I moved here. I grew up in a home where my mother was very apathetic towards the whole democratic process of an election. My dad voted, but did not do much to instill any civic responsibility in me.<br /><br />The other day, my mom dared to tell me she was thinking about NOT voting (elections to elect Puerto Rico's next governor are tomorrow as well-they do not participate in Presidential elections, but do elect a Resident Comissioner to Washington-and other stuff I can't remember-sorry!).<br /><br />I about went through the phone..."MAMI, you have to vote! Do you know women could not vote until 100 years ago? Do you know how many risked their lives so we could have that right? Are you not going to complain about how things are the next 4 years? Because if you don't vote, you can't complain...." etc, etc, etc....you get the jist of it.<br /><br />So, different opinions and preferences aside, please vote tomorrow, people! It is our duty. I work with some ladies that so matter of factly shrugged today and said, "Me? I am not voting"...<br /><br />Their decision. Still, I wish I could get in their heads and convince them to go vote.<br /><br />Please?La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-33759510544941085882008-10-19T21:56:00.003-05:002008-10-19T22:03:49.893-05:00I am back!So, I know I have been away for a while. Between school, two jobs, a family, life creeped up on me! But I love writing, so here I am!<br /><br />First, I have a new job with a larger employer in my area. I hope this will bring great benefits to us.<br /><br />School takes a big chunk of my time. I have been writing LOTS of papers for school. So that is another reason why I have been unable to write much here.<br /><br />My girls are getting bigger by the day. My husband is doing great; his health is better as he has lost a ton of weight...now, it is my turn to lose some too! hehe!<br /><br />The political race is crazy here, as I know it has been back in the Island as well...only a few more days left...yay!!!<br /><br />I recently had a birthday. I don't mind saying my age; I will not share here only for safety reasons...let's say just a bit over 35. (Grin!). And it was great!<br /><br />So, I am back, and ready to write some more...so brace yourselves!! Hasta pronto!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-86051868199698961542008-09-13T02:33:00.005-05:002008-09-13T02:48:29.068-05:00Back to School...x2!So here I am, after a hiatus, writing again...<br /><br />I have been busy with the back to school routine. My daughter is now a third-grader. Ah, where has the time gone? <br /><br />And, I am back in college! Yes. Time to finish that forgotten degree. Life has been good to me without it. But a part of me realizes how important education is. How am I going to tell my daughters to continue their education if I don't do the same?<br /><br />I am attending a womens-only college in my area. I go to school on weekends. And I love it so far. Their teaching style is different. The style I like. But still, it is a lot of work. <br /><br />But there is a sense of empowerment in going back. I am reevaluating some of my beliefs. I am revising a little how I have been thinking, and becoming more concientious about my surroundings and the world I am in, specially this time of the year with elections coming up. Thinking more of the issues important to me, and what can I do about those issues in my community, in my world.<br /><br />I am a mother. A Puertorican mother living in the USA. A full time employee and mother, and also, now a student. Wow! What issues affect me that I could do something about, is what I ponder? <br /><br />Education, women's rights, race relations, affirmative action...? The possibilities are endless, and I am learning more about those possiblities, and what I can do with them...<br /><br />I hope many others do the same. I cannot change the world alone, but if we all do a little, then, maybe...La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-64075512417493668602008-08-30T23:08:00.003-05:002008-08-30T23:31:18.516-05:00KateI have been thinking of writing about Kate for a while. Kate who? <br /><br />Have you seen that show, Jon & Kate plus 8?<br /><br />THAT Kate...<br /><br />See? I love the show. It is funny and the kids are precious. <br /><br />Kate, I have to say, is very close to what I could call my hero. If I don't, it's because I know the show is just TV. Even when they call it "reality" tv. It is still TV. Things get edited, and I know the main "characters" may have an "on tv" persona.<br /><br />The show has been under lots of scrutiny from the very beginning. All sorts of questions, comments and opinions are provoked by this show. From their looks, to their parenting and other family relationships, to the use of the money and products they receive, to say that the children are being exploited.<br /><br />Lots of other women I talk to feel that Kate is controlling, mean to Jon, and maybe even has some issues better treated by a mental health professional.<br /><br />Even my husband comments on how much of a...mean wife she can be.<br /><br />But I still think she is great. I mean...come on! I only have two kids to raise, and my house is far from organized, I go crazy sometimes with our daily routines (or lack of them), and many times I am exhausted. So I can only try to imagine what my life would be with more kids; even harder to picture 8!<br /><br />Maybe is because her way of running her house is more like the way Latin mothers run their houses. And I hope I don't get blasted by this comment. But if you go to the house of a traditional Hispanic mother with a lot of children, this behavior is not that uncommon. Or at least, it wasn't when I was growing up. So this is why I don't find her behavior that horrible, while others do. <br /><br />Now, a blog has appeared, supposedly trying to shed "light" on a situation happening at the show. A friend of Kate's family, who regularly appears in the show, supposedly was asked not to return to the show's most recent season. This person's sister has started the blog. I have to say, I sensed tons of anger and bitterness on that blog. I cannot say, however, if what it says is true or not. I will not judge her one way or the other. There are more than 1 side to every story. <br /><br />Still, I will continue to watch. My kids love seeing the "little kids show", as they call it. I learn a lot watching them cope with situations that seem very real to me, even from a tv show. And I hope we are allowed to continue to peek into their lives. After all, nobody is perfect. Not even Kate!La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5301382788643483867.post-4592098107651962822008-08-20T17:17:00.003-05:002008-08-20T17:29:34.893-05:00Is just a sausage!?!?!So, the first time I ever heard of people eating sausages other than breakfast was when I moved to Wisconsin. In Puerto Rico, I have had either breakfast sausages, or chorizo, a great ingredient for paella and other delicacies.<br /><br />Brats, Italian Sausage, Polish Sausage...never heard of them until moving here in 1989.<br /><br />I love brats and Italian sausages. So we always have them here.<br /><br />My mother is here visiting from the Island. <br /><br />Of course, she has no idea of how to make or cook one of the above-mentioned sausages.<br /><br />My oldest daughter stayed home with her yesterday. She is only 8 years old. At lunch time, my mother is hovering all over her asking many times what she would like for lunch. As many Hispanic mamas, she can be a little over-bearing with her "nietas" (granddaughters). My daughter kept saying she was not hungry. <br /><br />Around 1 pm, I call the house from work. My dear daughter says she finally had lunch. She had an Italian sausage.<br /><br />Many people who I related this story to, said at first, "Is just a sausage!?! What is the big deal?".<br /><br />The sausage was RAW!!!<br /><br />My daughter showed the box of sausages to my mom and told her she wanted one for lunch. Mind you, my mother is anal and meticulous. She bugs me for everything, and many times, the issues are far less significant. But for a food which she is not familiar with in the least, she could not check with me about how to handle it. She put one gigantic Italian sausage, frozen, in the microwave for 4 minutes, and then fed it to my daughter.<br /><br />Needless to say, I was furious. I went ballistic.<br /><br />My daughter has not gotten sick, thank goodness. Our doctor ordered some tests, just to make sure if we have to treat it or not.<br /><br />Hopefully, it will stay at "it was just a sausage"...<br /><br />As for my mother, I think she learned her lesson...until next time...La Jibarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00023515623126346837noreply@blogger.com2